I was in a training one day. The workshop was about “The effects of positive words”. A young lady in her 30s was the trainer. The trainer had a significant look, a look that was not too appealing and as I looked at her I had many thoughts in my head. She was in total control of the class. She knew her stuff and understood her audience,but, something was not right about her looks.

She started the workshop with these words, “When I was little, my mother always complain about how messy my room was and how scruffy I looked. This continued into my teenage years and I couldn’t be bothered till now “.

Then I knew it, the thought in my head finally focused on how scruffy this lady looked. I remember thinking that she actually let the negativism of her mother’s words shaped how she represented herself, but, I thought again and I wondered why.

I , sometimes, say some words to describe my children. Words that don’t bring out the beauty they encompassed. Words that don’t justify their innocence. Words that I say only when I am angry. Words that I always regret after uttering. Words that I cannot accept from people.

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